Monday, December 12, 2011

A Caged Bird~Mistakes

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“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson

12. Mistakes
It’s easy to focus on our mistakes—to reflect with 20/20 hindsight and berate ourselves for what went wrong. Bring your awareness to a mistake you’ve made over the past year. Unveil one positive lesson from that mistake. How can you actively use this lesson moving forward?

I am positive I have made several mistakes this past year. However, the biggest and most currently painful mistake is expecting people to treat me like I treat them.  This is not just anyone that I am speaking about, it is someone that you would expect would want to treat me special. 

Each morning I wake up wanting to make this person feel loved, but day in and day out I am hit with the realization that they just do not feel the same or want to do the same for me. For years I kept on turning the other cheek so to speak, giving without expecting anything in return. Right now I am feeling that continuing to do that is just a load of crap and a waste of precious time! 

Due to my current situation I am like a bird in a cage. One of these days someone is going to open the door to this cage and I will fly away. Not to search for a new nest or a new bird, but to be free to be happy.  If that means alone so be it. 

The one positive lesson that I am  learning from this mistake is to not make the same mistake again, ever. I pray that I have learned this difficult and sad lesson. 

During December I am joining the Reverb 2011 Project.  Some of my posts will require much courage as I will be answering as truthfully as I can, brutally honest, reaching deep within my soul, something that I have been refusing to do for years. 

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  2. Understand your thoughts, Lisa, have felt like that. And you've inspired me to post 2 special songs on my music/pop culture FB page today...look for it later (not sure when my turn to post will be, since I've got 5 admins).

  3. Oh I love that quote! I so understand you! Know what you are feeling and where you are coming from. The hardest thing is to grasp that though we treat others nicely, they don't always return the favor! Great post!!! xo

  4. That is one of my favorite quotes! I totally get what you mean in this post. Repeatedly I make the same mistake. Sometimes it' best to shower ourselves with love, especially when those around us withhold it. I'm so glad Reverb has connected us, and I wish you the best in 2012.

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  6. that was so sad that you will like that.. time will come that you will be able to come out and be the person that you want to be..

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  7. Courage indeed, Lisa. I ache for you that you feel trapped like a bird in a cage, but the beautiful part is that your mind and your spirit can go anywhere at any time, regardless of where you happen to be planted. I'll be thinking of you and wishing you the freedom and love you desire.

  8. I find it sad that you have to feel that way. We DO deserve to be treated as we treat others. But, sadly, I can completely identify with how you feel. I am the same way. And just as trapped as you.

  9. @Hamlin if I am ever in the market for a bird cage I will let you know!

  10. Gerry! Thank you, can't wait to see which songs they are!! xoxo

  11. Thank you Leah! With anyone else in my life I am cool with it, but with this person I am having difficulty! Take care and thanks for visiting! Lisa

  12. Oh hunny...tell me their names and I'll kick their ass for ya.

    I love you no matter what. I am horribly sorry, I know your pain and had to cut my parents and my brother from my life 5 years ago. It still hurts, but it was the right thing. Gotta weed out the evil, or destructive and wait for God to bring in the flowers.

    Mucho love

  13. Thank you Robin! That is such a great way to deal with it. I am glad we connected too! I am a little behind on my posts. This one took a lot out of me!! Have a great rest of your week. Lisa

  14. Yes Kim, All in God's time. Thank you for visiting!

  15. Oh Lisa, You are so sweet! Thank you so much. I normally wouldn't be speaking about this, but the project made me do it!! Ha Ha~

  16. Christina, I am so sorry that you have to deal with this as well. On top of what we have to deal with physically. Oh well, we are tough! Thank you for stopping in for a visit again. Love ya. Lisa

  17. Hey Sharon! If I thought kicking his ass would help I would have called you long ago!! Now that I am thinking about it maybe you should do it anyway! Love you!


Not what we give,
But what we share,
For the gift
without the giver
Is bare.
~James Russell Lowell

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