Saturday, August 28, 2010

Memory Lane

Today I have been looking at old pictures and photo albums of my kids. We are a blended family with 5 sons, my husband with 2 and I with 3.  They grew up so fast, it seems like yesterday I was holding them in my arms coming home from the hospital.
 Matt, Andrew and Chris in 1992

Chris, Andrew and Matt NYC August 2010

We recently became empty nesters when our youngest graduated from High School. He was planning on going to our State University, so I thought I had some more time with him! He decided that he was going to move with his brother and sister in law in NYC and join the Navy! I had 10 days to digest the news. It was really difficult at times to look at him and not cry!

As I was flipping through the pages of the albums, I kept wondering if I had been there for them each time they needed me, or had I missed out on something important? Was I a good mom? Did I...., I could go on and on. I think as moms we are always second guessing our choices when it comes to our children. Working nights as a nurse for so many years, I know I was tired many a day.  Try as I did, I also know I was cranky at times with only 1 hour of sleep.

I realized we do the best we can at the time. I have to believe that! The answer to my doubts is when I look at the great men they have become. God is great, we may be reminded of our faults but also of our greatest achievements! May you recognize your achievements too!! Until next time~


  1. hi thanx 4 becoming a follower ive followed u back. ive gotta say its hard 2 believe ur a grandma u dont look old enough :)

  2. Well thank you Fuyume!! You made my day!! That is so sweet of you, but I am 52 years young!! Thanks for following too!

  3. I don't know you but I'm sure you've been a wonderful mom ... why am I saying that ... because you take the time to be introspective ... ask yourself the important questions etc. Now, even though I don't know you, I'd like to add that "guilt and worry are wasted emotions". Enjoy the fact that they are living independent lives. I'd be more concerned if they were sitting around your house waiting for you to take the next step!
    I'm here from BlogFrog and I'm the parent of 2 teenage boys. Fun Wow!

  4. That's really touching! Reading what u posted makes me think that u must be a great mom! Anyway Matt looks handsome.. is he single?lol... kidding :P

  5. @Karyn and @ Endy, Thank you. You guys made me tear up!! And yes Endy Matt is single!!

  6. Then pls say hi for him :p hehehe.... cheers :)

  7. I can totally relate to the second-guessing, even though my oldest is only seven years old and my nest is still full. Congrats on becoming a Navy Mom! I was in the Air Force for nine years active duty; now I'm a Reservist and I know my mom never stopped worrying. It's a fun way of life, and the military really does feel like a family - lots of good people!

  8. Thank you Julie. I am proud of them, my oldest is in the Navy too and he loves it. That is wonderful that you are now able to be a Reservist. I think the military is a great choice. Oh how sweet, 7 years old! I know you will enjoy them. I now get to enjoy our granddaughters, finally some ruffles in the house!!

  9. What a wonderful first post! I love to go to a first read what may have been the purpose of a blog to be started or to learn a little more about a blogger...
    I love the photos of your boys from past and present. :o) I wish that blogs were around when my mom was growing up, I was growing up or even when ours were growing up! Now ours are all grown too, so most of my posts share old photos and past memories (while I am able to recall them :o) for our kids to look back on. (can't wait to have grandbabies :o)...

    So nice to meet you!
    Blessings & Aloha!

  10. So nice to see you again PSS! Grandbabies are a blast!! See you soon. Lisa


Not what we give,
But what we share,
For the gift
without the giver
Is bare.
~James Russell Lowell

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