Thursday, September 16, 2010

#Back2Blogging Event- Day 4!

Welcome to Day 4 of our #Back2Blogging event!  If you don't know what I am talking about, I am a member of The SITS Girls and they have a blogging challenge going on this week.  Each day there is another assignment to do.  This has really helped me to post on a daily basis on this blog. 

Today we are writing about a woman who inspires us.  I have been blessed with many wonderful women who have or continue to inspire me.  However, I am going to talk about the most important woman who gave me life, my mom.

Mom with her grandsons, Matt and Alex in 1988

She was a Social Worker and was a stay at home mom until I, being the eldest, was around 10 years old.  From a very young age we all were expected to do chores.  I was around 5 and my sister 3 and a half years old, standing at the kitchen sink on chairs after dinner washing and drying all the dishes.  I started cooking for the family after Mom started working and yes there was a lot of jello molds for dessert!

She may have been having many disappointments in her life, but never complained about anything.  As kids we were sheltered from anything negative that may have been going on.  She loved us with all her heart and soul and we knew it.

She taught us how to take care of ourselves early on.  I will always be grateful for that insight as it has helped me during my life's challenges.  We didn't need to depend on anyone, just ourselves and our wherewithal! I learned to cook, sew, clean, do laundry and take care of a  home way before I ever went off to college.

My favorite memory as a child was waking up on Christmas morning and the tree was lit and full of packages. There were two fur coats, hanging by the tree.  One for my little sister and one for me.  Apparently she had spent her evenings sewing them while we were asleep.  

Another Christmas she brought home two little foster children who had no where to go for Christmas.  We had so much fun that Christmas.  It was no longer about what we were getting but what we were going to give to those little boys. I wonder where they are, but I am sure they never forgot that Christmas, I know I haven't.

My mom didn't believe parents and children should be pals, buddies, friends, she was the parent and we were always her kids.  However, in my eyes she was my best friend.  We talked all the time on the phone.  She was always so fair, if I was doing something wrong she would tell me, at times she even would take my husband's side over me, if he was right.  She was always there for advice if we needed her.

In 1992 my dad and mom called and told us that they were coming to visit us in Florida.  We were always so excited with their visits.  My kids would call them Grandpa and Grandma Airplane because they always had to fly to us for their visits!

They arrived and soon , my mom sat with us and told us that she had to see a doctor.  My dad was also surprised, she hadn't told him anything.  He just thought they were coming for a fun vacation.  She said that she had a lump in her breast that needed to be checked.

We quickly got her in to see the doctor.  Little did we know that the "lump" like she called it, was an actual large mass already protruding out of her skin.  I remember sitting with her and my dad waiting for her to have the CT scan. I was so scared and had a sickening feeling in the pit of my stomach.

The CT came back and when I looked at it, it was as if her bones were swiss cheese.  There were actual numerous holes up and down her hip and leg bones. I was sick.  I then realized that she must have been in terrible pain, but never complained.  I knew I was soon going to lose my mom.

My dear mom lasted around 18 months after her arrival to Florida.  She died in 1993.  I miss her so much.  I always thought she would be there to see all her grandchildren marry and have kids.  It took months before I finally stopped picking up the phone to call her.

My mom  was a blessing to all of us and to all the people who crossed her path. So my mom is the woman who to this day inspires me.
Grandpa and Grandma Airplane with Chris and Matt

Before I close, I must first say that her death was most likely preventable.   She never went to the doctor, never had mammograms, or even a simple self breast exam.   She eventually found the tumor but never told anyone, not even a doctor.  Please check out how to do a Breast Self-Exam here and please get your yearly mammograms.

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  1. You are so welcome. It was the first time in all these years that I was able to write something about her. Thanks for visiting. ~Lisa

  2. Oh, I'm so sorry that you had to lose your mom that way. You described her beautifully though!

    (Stopping by from SITS)

  3. Thank you Lindsey for your comment. That means a lot to me. If it hadn't been for the SITS challenge I probably would have postponed writing about that time. Love SITS!!

  4. Beautiful post. I can't imagine the devastation one feels when losing a parent, especially for a girl and her mother. The older I get, the more and more I value my Mom, the more and more I love her. Thank you for writing this! :)

  5. You are extraordinarily fortunate to have had a mom like yours. It's great that you realize it and appreciate it. Thanks for sharing.

  6. How nice your post to your mom.
    Makes one think,
    Thanks for posting

  7. @Lis,

    Just read your post too. Thank you for that it was beautiful. I am so glad you stopped by. Have a great weekend!~Lisa

  8. @Grams,
    Yes, I have been wanting to write about her for some time now. Thank you for visiting!~Lisa

  9. Hi Mary!
    Thank you for popping in to say hello. I am glad I was able to finally write it. Have a great weekend~Lisa

  10. This is a wonderful tribute to your mother. Not only is she a great blessing but she was successful in raising a great daughter and I'm sure you were a constant source of pride and comfort to her.

  11. Thank you so much Grace. That was such a sweet comment!

  12. You have me all broken up because of that story. I can't believe the pain you must have and are suffering. What a beautiful story. Oh my! Deep breath! I wrote a tribute to my mom on Monday I had no idea the SITS were doing this. Maybe I will enter.

  13. You are so sweet Myrtle! It was a very difficult time. She is with our first daughter Alexandra Christine in Heaven. That has always comforted me. I may write about her soon too.

    It isn't too late to enter into the SITS Girls challenge. You only have to enter 5 posts. You may even end up winning that cool turquoise washer and dryer set!

    Thanks again for visiting and most of all for your sweet comment. ~Lisa

  14. Lisa, I am so sad that you lost your mom and your children lost their grandma. I know it's hard not to think, "if only!" I do the same thing with my mom. And their deaths were not meant to be...they were stolen away from us too early!


Not what we give,
But what we share,
For the gift
without the giver
Is bare.
~James Russell Lowell

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